I really gotta go study for my physics exam- but i wanted to say : i hear, i hear you, i hear you. I have eczema. And it’s basically like acne, but for me, it breaks out on my hands. So you can probably imagine how embarrassed/insecure i feel sometimes when writing or handling things in front of others. Aside from the actual pain especially during summer. i also tend to have sweaty palms lol.( ummm not helping ) I’ve had it for yearsssss, but now it’s much much better alhamdulillah. Still, it’s not the easiest thing, especially because not just dairy, but most foods actually, tend to cause the break out. And a million other things such as hormones. Now i don’t go to the dermatologists anymore. I know when it gets the worst : during my exams. Also when i stay up late. But i have a little golden savior: aloe gel. I got it as a gift from an aunt a few years back- and it turned out to be exactly the thing i needed, because when i’m in pain, i don’t need more pain ( aka the ointments and creams docs prescribed for me ) , i need relief. And omg Alhamdulillah it works and it helped me so so much. I’m so grateful to have come across it. I would be crying in pain every time it broke out. Alhamdulillah😭😭❤️
Tbh i have no idea why i said all of this info this is not what i wanted to say.
I wanted to say : sometimes the people who we would expect to cherish us the most, show us love unconditionally the most, don’t. And that hurts. Really hurts.
And i’m so grateful you’ve come to realise that people don’t see you the way your father do. Because believe me, mine would see all my flaws, would doubt me, but Allah blessed me with people in my life whom i would call golden, and i’m lucky enough to have them call me that too. They showed me that i deserve love, no matter my condition. No matter how “ not put together “ i feel.
The best thing i did for myself, i think, was to take back to the power i gave to him over me. The emotional, mental power. I think of it as putting my worth in my own pockets. It doesn’t depend on my grades, and it doesn’t depend on how you see me because it’s very much your choice no matter what i do or don’t.
God i wanna hug you so so bad girl🥹❤️❤️
And i know we’re both strangers on this corner of the internet, but i wish i could have been there for you all those times, sis.
you’re so lovely, and so sweet.
I loved the part about noor so so much 🥹🥹💗💗💗💗💗 It’s beautiful. So beautiful.💗
Also, Kudos for embarking on the no-makeup journey… that’s very brave. And i’ve found that it’s very freeing ughhh. It’s like i’m telling my brain each time i do : “ hey, we can simply exist as we are, you know. No need to fix anything.” And honestly? That kind of inner sturdiness in learning to be comfy in your own skin? It’s peace.
I love you so much, girl.❤️ would like to know, what’s your favorite icecream flavor?
thank you so much for sharing this with me. your story makes me feel so much less alone and it's also inspiring me as well. i'm glad that your eczema is better now alhamdulillah, and that your aunt gifted you aloe gel! subhanallah, the way Allah provides for us the things He knows will ease our pain. and yes, i can imagine how insecure it must make you feel. but i can already tell without even seeing your hand (or holding it🥰) that they are so beautiful. i'm glad i'm not alone with the dairy too, that really irritates me.
'Allah blessed me with people in my life whom i would call golden, and i’m lucky enough to have them call me that too' - this really is making me smile :) alhamdulillah. i'm so happy for you. it's such a beautiful trait to focus on the people we have in our life that *do* show us love and the love that we want and need, rather than those whom we wish would give it to us, but don't. i'm also lucky enough to have golden friends and they too call me that as well 🩷 what a beautiful gift!
'I think of it as putting my worth in my own pockets' girl omg 🥹 this is so inspiring. truly, you have no idea how much your words mean to me. thank you so much for leaving this kind comment. sending you virtual hugs 🫂
jazakallah khair and may Allah bless you, make the pain ease up entirely and grant you shifaa, Ameen ♡. i'm also learning that i don't need to fix anything as well. slowly, slowly :)
i love you too ♡ and my favourite ice cream flavourrrrrrr omg thank you for asking. it's ben and jerry's cookie dough. and from the ice cream truck, it's a vanilla cone with strawberry and bubblegum sauce!!!! 🥹 what's yours? and good luck with your exam! may Allah increase you in knowledge, Ameen ♡
Reading about how insecure your dad’s behavior made you, made me tear up a bit. Maybe it was amplified a little more by the screen in my face at night 😅
It’s really unfortunate that sometimes people don’t understand how much influence their words have on others. It could make or break them.
Allah has all the reward in the world stored for you in Jannah. He’ll bless you with a clear beautiful skin in this world and the next. Ameen ya Rab.
I have super sensitive eyes and a quite a blurry vision. I can’t go 30 minutes without my glasses or contacts. It’s really bad. It feels like I’m handicapped. I always ask Allah for clear vision. And sometimes it makes me feel like am I asking for too much? Is it even possible?
And then I remember the story of Imam al Bukhari, who was blind as a child and Allah restored his eyesight because of the Dua of his mother. And it gives me the yaqeen that Allah can do anything. But that yaqeen waivers sometimes. But InshaAllah I’ll continue to work on it and continue asking Allah.
Btw I found the study so interesting and your connecting it to the Noor on the face was more fascinating. Thank you for sharing that.
ur the most beautiful soul🎀 Allahuma barik ps my smart bestie said something: when someone says something negative about her. It’s actually a reflection of the person & it has nothing to do with my bestie and i can’t stop thinking about it because it’s so true!!!:)
thank you so much, you always leave such kind and loving comments sis :')
i love what your bestie said. i'm going to try and remember that when i feel like someone is staring at my face in a negative way. thank you so much, jazakallah khair 🩷
🫂 I've always had it rough with acne as well. Still do, even at 24. I had always hoped that stepping out of my teens would help, but it hasn't yet. It comes and goes and I have good weeks and bad weeks. I'm trying to stay consistent with skincare and focusing on what I can control. Inshallah yours will continue to ease up. Despite that, you are still beautiful ❤️. It's always something that I've had to battle out on the inside, but acne doesn't take away from your beauty. Your beauty is always there - the shape of your nose, the curve of your cheeks, the corners of your eyes that turn up when you smile. It is in your heart and beauty of character, it is in your soul and your spirituality. Acne and it's scars don't cover that up. It's interesting because I've known girls with lots of scars or acne or both and I would look at them and I would only see beauty. I would blink and look again and still only see beauty. I saw the acne, the scars, and in some cases it added and in others it just didn't matter... I wonder why it is so hard to look at ourselves the way we see others. To see what we look like from another person's prospective. I've always been told to step out of my shoes into another's for another's benefit... I wonder what it would be like to do it for ours. Also, for ice cream - check out alternatives. I absolutely love coconut milk ice cream, there is also cashew, oat, avocado, mixed alternatives, and more. They almost taste better than normal ice cream sometimes, other times they are terrible 😅. I also try to stay away from milk - gluten and soy also. I still treat myself to actual milk stuff sometimes, but I normally don't get ice cream because I found something better XD. I hope this helps <3. Jazakulahu kahirun as always for sharing. Sending you duaas and good vibes. Keep being the amazing beautiful person you are!
this is so so so so sweet and beautifully said. thank you so much, it really does mean a lot to me. and thank you for the alternatives !! it's just sooooo hard to find over here. ima keep looking :) thank you ❤️ and you are also still incredibly beautiful - both inside and out :) sending hugs
your words touched something deep. i felt seen.. it’s heartbreaking how often the people closest to us teach us to doubt our own reflection. thank you for sharing this with such tenderness. may Allah heal every place where someone else’s words made you feel less. your honesty is a gift. ❤️🩹
I say this thing to myself often: when I am hurt or lost, the fire in my heart might flicker for a second, it might make things cold for a second, but as long as I remember Allah, that fire will never go out, it will always keep me warm. may Allah strengthen the fire in your heart as well. even if it flickers, may it never go out and may it bring warmth to you ♡
asalaam alaikum 💓 your words have brought such comfort and reassurance to my heart, sweet sister.
i’m going through a period of redirection and sabr, so i’m glad that i read this: “they say that Allah waits to answer some of our du’as in the next life, and when we see how He answered them there, we’ll wish that He hadn’t answered any of them here.”
may Allah increase the noor in your soul, heart, mind, tongue, limbs and face.
Oh man, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that kind of treatment from your dad and relatives.
I'm a guy firstly so I wouldn't be able to understand just how much hurt you've gone through because of that. But I can relate in some small way, as far as worrying about how my face looks.
I had really bed eczema in high school, and it was seriously bad on my face, and my skin would peel and weep and crack and be tomato red.
My brother called me el tomatini once lol, and I can't lie, it didn't make me feel nice. I laughed at his joke ofc. I think at some point I did tell him that I didn't like that joke.
Anyways, point being, I feel you on some level, and I pray your dua gets accepted and you get complete shifa.
May Allah swt grant you noor in all aspects of your being. May you be illuminated and a source of light in this world (you already are!).
Love the inclusion about our fuss being answered better in the akhirah! May Allah ease the burden you carry. Salicylic acid helps with my acne and it’s a holy part of my daily routine
I felt so seen in this post, Ya Allah❤️🩹 Jazakillahu khairan for writing this, I can only imagine the courage it took to be this vulnerable. The not wanting to look at the mirror….that one💔
And I am so sorry about your father. The disgust coming from family hits harder. My mother said something about my face a long time ago and to this day it’s stuck in my head, fresh in my memory like she said it right now.
Thank Noor part…Subhanallah 🥹 Alhamdulillah for Islam.
Sending you hugs. Allahumma barik💕 proud that you have come a long way. Here’s to embracing our skins and not being ashamed about it💕💕
Even though I'm still a teenager and you know how the hormones can be during teenage years .
About wanting to look beautiful, hear compliments , fit into places that don't really matter and many more.
Throughout my years in Secondary school, I always saw myself as someone who's very ugly, I always avoided the mirror, and I don't like looking people in the eye because of my excema.
I never saw any beauty on my face mostly especially, and trust me, people saw me that way too.
Being in a Nigerian home, I can't book dermatologist session, or place myself or antibiotics or even see a doctor because of ''excema" which is "just a skin condition".
I actually got it from my dad, and it is in my blood, so I had no choice but to live with it.
Even at a very young age, I suffered inferiority complexities because of how my face looked. I silenced my voice because I don't people to see the person who's talking.
I belittled myself, even though I knew that I was very much capable.
I sought validation in people, always asking my trusted friend "am I even beautiful?"
I always told myself that no one can ever like me, because of how I looked.
I also didn't like telling people my name, because to me then I looked ugly and my name wasn't helping too- Iroodatullah.
I didn't like anything about myself then.
So when I clocked 16 years or so...
Because of my personality, and my love for books, I started reading a lot of books, ranging from fiction, to history, poetry, articles, essays and many more.
In one of my travels through books I came across a quote which changed my life
"People will see you, the way you view yourself."
That means, if you see yourself as an ugly person, then people will also see you that way.
This quote birthed my self love journey.
I started appreciating myself more .
I started complimenting myself, and not waiting for compliments from anyone.
I stopped seeking validation from people, instead I showered myself with words of affirmation and I said those words with utmost sincerity.
I started seeing my beauty beyond my flaws, I saw the "Noor" which Allah placed in me, which will only radiate if I acknowledge it.
I started telling people my name with more confidence.
To the other sister who commented on this post about excema and Sabr Girl herself.
Skincare routines, dermatologist sessions, antibiotics and all.
They are all temporary solutions to our skin condition.
And Alhamdullilah, you both understand your skin conditions, the triggers and hormonal causes too. You have more experiences than I do, because you're much older than I am.
I know that I am very much younger, but I hope to share with you, gems that has helped me regardless of my inexperience.
My dearest Sisters, embrace your flaws.
Practice self love, and trust me you'll never remain the same.
Affirm yourselves and compliment yourselves on days your skin is saying the opposite. It'll lift up your spirits.
I don't know you both, neither have I seen you too.
But I know that you're one of theeee most beautiful people Allah has created.
You're imperfectly perfect, perfectly fashioned and created by Al-Bariu.
Embrace your flaws and love yourself.
Don't dim the Noor Allah has placed onto your faces.
You're beautiful just the way you're.
May you always stay wrapped in Rahmah and draped in Allah's love.
May Allah always be with you.
And Sabr Girl, thank you for sharing this beautiful experience of yours.
I really gotta go study for my physics exam- but i wanted to say : i hear, i hear you, i hear you. I have eczema. And it’s basically like acne, but for me, it breaks out on my hands. So you can probably imagine how embarrassed/insecure i feel sometimes when writing or handling things in front of others. Aside from the actual pain especially during summer. i also tend to have sweaty palms lol.( ummm not helping ) I’ve had it for yearsssss, but now it’s much much better alhamdulillah. Still, it’s not the easiest thing, especially because not just dairy, but most foods actually, tend to cause the break out. And a million other things such as hormones. Now i don’t go to the dermatologists anymore. I know when it gets the worst : during my exams. Also when i stay up late. But i have a little golden savior: aloe gel. I got it as a gift from an aunt a few years back- and it turned out to be exactly the thing i needed, because when i’m in pain, i don’t need more pain ( aka the ointments and creams docs prescribed for me ) , i need relief. And omg Alhamdulillah it works and it helped me so so much. I’m so grateful to have come across it. I would be crying in pain every time it broke out. Alhamdulillah😭😭❤️
Tbh i have no idea why i said all of this info this is not what i wanted to say.
I wanted to say : sometimes the people who we would expect to cherish us the most, show us love unconditionally the most, don’t. And that hurts. Really hurts.
And i’m so grateful you’ve come to realise that people don’t see you the way your father do. Because believe me, mine would see all my flaws, would doubt me, but Allah blessed me with people in my life whom i would call golden, and i’m lucky enough to have them call me that too. They showed me that i deserve love, no matter my condition. No matter how “ not put together “ i feel.
The best thing i did for myself, i think, was to take back to the power i gave to him over me. The emotional, mental power. I think of it as putting my worth in my own pockets. It doesn’t depend on my grades, and it doesn’t depend on how you see me because it’s very much your choice no matter what i do or don’t.
God i wanna hug you so so bad girl🥹❤️❤️
And i know we’re both strangers on this corner of the internet, but i wish i could have been there for you all those times, sis.
you’re so lovely, and so sweet.
I loved the part about noor so so much 🥹🥹💗💗💗💗💗 It’s beautiful. So beautiful.💗
Also, Kudos for embarking on the no-makeup journey… that’s very brave. And i’ve found that it’s very freeing ughhh. It’s like i’m telling my brain each time i do : “ hey, we can simply exist as we are, you know. No need to fix anything.” And honestly? That kind of inner sturdiness in learning to be comfy in your own skin? It’s peace.
I love you so much, girl.❤️ would like to know, what’s your favorite icecream flavor?
omg my sweetheart 😭🩷
thank you so much for sharing this with me. your story makes me feel so much less alone and it's also inspiring me as well. i'm glad that your eczema is better now alhamdulillah, and that your aunt gifted you aloe gel! subhanallah, the way Allah provides for us the things He knows will ease our pain. and yes, i can imagine how insecure it must make you feel. but i can already tell without even seeing your hand (or holding it🥰) that they are so beautiful. i'm glad i'm not alone with the dairy too, that really irritates me.
'Allah blessed me with people in my life whom i would call golden, and i’m lucky enough to have them call me that too' - this really is making me smile :) alhamdulillah. i'm so happy for you. it's such a beautiful trait to focus on the people we have in our life that *do* show us love and the love that we want and need, rather than those whom we wish would give it to us, but don't. i'm also lucky enough to have golden friends and they too call me that as well 🩷 what a beautiful gift!
'I think of it as putting my worth in my own pockets' girl omg 🥹 this is so inspiring. truly, you have no idea how much your words mean to me. thank you so much for leaving this kind comment. sending you virtual hugs 🫂
jazakallah khair and may Allah bless you, make the pain ease up entirely and grant you shifaa, Ameen ♡. i'm also learning that i don't need to fix anything as well. slowly, slowly :)
i love you too ♡ and my favourite ice cream flavourrrrrrr omg thank you for asking. it's ben and jerry's cookie dough. and from the ice cream truck, it's a vanilla cone with strawberry and bubblegum sauce!!!! 🥹 what's yours? and good luck with your exam! may Allah increase you in knowledge, Ameen ♡
The greatest hurt comes from those closest and it makes the loneliness hit more, may your light never dim.
it really does. thank you so much :,)
This is written so beautifully Allahumma Barik!
Reading about how insecure your dad’s behavior made you, made me tear up a bit. Maybe it was amplified a little more by the screen in my face at night 😅
It’s really unfortunate that sometimes people don’t understand how much influence their words have on others. It could make or break them.
Allah has all the reward in the world stored for you in Jannah. He’ll bless you with a clear beautiful skin in this world and the next. Ameen ya Rab.
I have super sensitive eyes and a quite a blurry vision. I can’t go 30 minutes without my glasses or contacts. It’s really bad. It feels like I’m handicapped. I always ask Allah for clear vision. And sometimes it makes me feel like am I asking for too much? Is it even possible?
And then I remember the story of Imam al Bukhari, who was blind as a child and Allah restored his eyesight because of the Dua of his mother. And it gives me the yaqeen that Allah can do anything. But that yaqeen waivers sometimes. But InshaAllah I’ll continue to work on it and continue asking Allah.
Btw I found the study so interesting and your connecting it to the Noor on the face was more fascinating. Thank you for sharing that.
Love you for Allah. Barakallahu Feeki! 🤍
🥹🥹🥹🥹🩷
thank you so much sis ♡
ur the most beautiful soul🎀 Allahuma barik ps my smart bestie said something: when someone says something negative about her. It’s actually a reflection of the person & it has nothing to do with my bestie and i can’t stop thinking about it because it’s so true!!!:)
thank you so much, you always leave such kind and loving comments sis :')
i love what your bestie said. i'm going to try and remember that when i feel like someone is staring at my face in a negative way. thank you so much, jazakallah khair 🩷
🫂 I've always had it rough with acne as well. Still do, even at 24. I had always hoped that stepping out of my teens would help, but it hasn't yet. It comes and goes and I have good weeks and bad weeks. I'm trying to stay consistent with skincare and focusing on what I can control. Inshallah yours will continue to ease up. Despite that, you are still beautiful ❤️. It's always something that I've had to battle out on the inside, but acne doesn't take away from your beauty. Your beauty is always there - the shape of your nose, the curve of your cheeks, the corners of your eyes that turn up when you smile. It is in your heart and beauty of character, it is in your soul and your spirituality. Acne and it's scars don't cover that up. It's interesting because I've known girls with lots of scars or acne or both and I would look at them and I would only see beauty. I would blink and look again and still only see beauty. I saw the acne, the scars, and in some cases it added and in others it just didn't matter... I wonder why it is so hard to look at ourselves the way we see others. To see what we look like from another person's prospective. I've always been told to step out of my shoes into another's for another's benefit... I wonder what it would be like to do it for ours. Also, for ice cream - check out alternatives. I absolutely love coconut milk ice cream, there is also cashew, oat, avocado, mixed alternatives, and more. They almost taste better than normal ice cream sometimes, other times they are terrible 😅. I also try to stay away from milk - gluten and soy also. I still treat myself to actual milk stuff sometimes, but I normally don't get ice cream because I found something better XD. I hope this helps <3. Jazakulahu kahirun as always for sharing. Sending you duaas and good vibes. Keep being the amazing beautiful person you are!
this is so so so so sweet and beautifully said. thank you so much, it really does mean a lot to me. and thank you for the alternatives !! it's just sooooo hard to find over here. ima keep looking :) thank you ❤️ and you are also still incredibly beautiful - both inside and out :) sending hugs
your words touched something deep. i felt seen.. it’s heartbreaking how often the people closest to us teach us to doubt our own reflection. thank you for sharing this with such tenderness. may Allah heal every place where someone else’s words made you feel less. your honesty is a gift. ❤️🩹
:) this means so much to me.
it really is heartbreaking. what can you do? :( thank you so much for reading and for your kindness. and Ameen to that lovely du’a 🩷
I say this thing to myself often: when I am hurt or lost, the fire in my heart might flicker for a second, it might make things cold for a second, but as long as I remember Allah, that fire will never go out, it will always keep me warm. may Allah strengthen the fire in your heart as well. even if it flickers, may it never go out and may it bring warmth to you ♡
Why it is lways our own people who hurt us most???
beautiful, enjoyed reading this <33
thank you so much :)
asalaam alaikum 💓 your words have brought such comfort and reassurance to my heart, sweet sister.
i’m going through a period of redirection and sabr, so i’m glad that i read this: “they say that Allah waits to answer some of our du’as in the next life, and when we see how He answered them there, we’ll wish that He hadn’t answered any of them here.”
may Allah increase the noor in your soul, heart, mind, tongue, limbs and face.
Oh man, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that kind of treatment from your dad and relatives.
I'm a guy firstly so I wouldn't be able to understand just how much hurt you've gone through because of that. But I can relate in some small way, as far as worrying about how my face looks.
I had really bed eczema in high school, and it was seriously bad on my face, and my skin would peel and weep and crack and be tomato red.
My brother called me el tomatini once lol, and I can't lie, it didn't make me feel nice. I laughed at his joke ofc. I think at some point I did tell him that I didn't like that joke.
Anyways, point being, I feel you on some level, and I pray your dua gets accepted and you get complete shifa.
May Allah swt grant you noor in all aspects of your being. May you be illuminated and a source of light in this world (you already are!).
Love the inclusion about our fuss being answered better in the akhirah! May Allah ease the burden you carry. Salicylic acid helps with my acne and it’s a holy part of my daily routine
Ameen :) thank you so much! ♡
I felt so seen in this post, Ya Allah❤️🩹 Jazakillahu khairan for writing this, I can only imagine the courage it took to be this vulnerable. The not wanting to look at the mirror….that one💔
And I am so sorry about your father. The disgust coming from family hits harder. My mother said something about my face a long time ago and to this day it’s stuck in my head, fresh in my memory like she said it right now.
Thank Noor part…Subhanallah 🥹 Alhamdulillah for Islam.
Sending you hugs. Allahumma barik💕 proud that you have come a long way. Here’s to embracing our skins and not being ashamed about it💕💕
SabrGirl, your name really does suit you .
You have acne and I have eczema.
Even though I'm still a teenager and you know how the hormones can be during teenage years .
About wanting to look beautiful, hear compliments , fit into places that don't really matter and many more.
Throughout my years in Secondary school, I always saw myself as someone who's very ugly, I always avoided the mirror, and I don't like looking people in the eye because of my excema.
I never saw any beauty on my face mostly especially, and trust me, people saw me that way too.
Being in a Nigerian home, I can't book dermatologist session, or place myself or antibiotics or even see a doctor because of ''excema" which is "just a skin condition".
I actually got it from my dad, and it is in my blood, so I had no choice but to live with it.
Even at a very young age, I suffered inferiority complexities because of how my face looked. I silenced my voice because I don't people to see the person who's talking.
I belittled myself, even though I knew that I was very much capable.
I sought validation in people, always asking my trusted friend "am I even beautiful?"
I always told myself that no one can ever like me, because of how I looked.
I also didn't like telling people my name, because to me then I looked ugly and my name wasn't helping too- Iroodatullah.
I didn't like anything about myself then.
So when I clocked 16 years or so...
Because of my personality, and my love for books, I started reading a lot of books, ranging from fiction, to history, poetry, articles, essays and many more.
In one of my travels through books I came across a quote which changed my life
"People will see you, the way you view yourself."
That means, if you see yourself as an ugly person, then people will also see you that way.
This quote birthed my self love journey.
I started appreciating myself more .
I started complimenting myself, and not waiting for compliments from anyone.
I stopped seeking validation from people, instead I showered myself with words of affirmation and I said those words with utmost sincerity.
I started seeing my beauty beyond my flaws, I saw the "Noor" which Allah placed in me, which will only radiate if I acknowledge it.
I started telling people my name with more confidence.
To the other sister who commented on this post about excema and Sabr Girl herself.
Skincare routines, dermatologist sessions, antibiotics and all.
They are all temporary solutions to our skin condition.
And Alhamdullilah, you both understand your skin conditions, the triggers and hormonal causes too. You have more experiences than I do, because you're much older than I am.
I know that I am very much younger, but I hope to share with you, gems that has helped me regardless of my inexperience.
My dearest Sisters, embrace your flaws.
Practice self love, and trust me you'll never remain the same.
Affirm yourselves and compliment yourselves on days your skin is saying the opposite. It'll lift up your spirits.
I don't know you both, neither have I seen you too.
But I know that you're one of theeee most beautiful people Allah has created.
You're imperfectly perfect, perfectly fashioned and created by Al-Bariu.
Embrace your flaws and love yourself.
Don't dim the Noor Allah has placed onto your faces.
You're beautiful just the way you're.
May you always stay wrapped in Rahmah and draped in Allah's love.
May Allah always be with you.
And Sabr Girl, thank you for sharing this beautiful experience of yours.
I have learnt a lot.
Barakallahu feeh 💗