I hear you. And you’re absolutely right. Because while longing is natural, it’s also important that it doesn’t hold you hostage—that the thought of not having a man love you doesn’t feel like an unbearable fate. Because love, no matter how beautiful was never meant to be the thing that makes or unmakes you.
You have done so much work, not just in healing but in knowing yourself, in learning how to live fully, in strengthening your faith. And that faith, intimate relationship you’ve built with Allah—that is your anchor. That is what keeps you steady when the longing gets heavy. Because He hears you. He sees you. He knows what your heart aches for even before you put it into words. And He has never once forgotten you.
I know there are moments when it feels like why hasn’t this one thing happened yet? But Allah’s delays are never without purpose. Not a single tear, not a single whispered du’a goes unnoticed. You are not being overlooked. You are being prepared. You are being protected. You are being positioned for something that won’t just fill the void but will honor every part of who you are.And until that comes, you have to trust that you are already whole. That your life is not waiting to begin when love arrives—it is already rich and full and yours. A man’s love, when it comes, will be a gift. A blessing. But not the thing that saves you—because you were never lost to begin with.
So keep praying. Keep living. Keep trusting. Not with anxiety, not with fear, but with the quiet, steady belief that what is written for you will never miss you. And when it comes, it will not be something you have to beg for. It will not be something that leaves you questioning. It will be clear It will be kind It will be yours.
oh my dear goodness. thank you so much. i don't even have the words to explain how reassuring this is. your words have truly eased my heart :(
you're right. i think i AM being protected :') and prepared. i sometimes think that Allah is just helping me not *need* it and depend on it but instead entirely depend on Him before it comes. and i think it is working, alhamdulillah. sometimes i just get so impatient and frustrated. but you're so right, my relationship with Him IS my anchor. what a beautiful way to phrase it! you have such a way with words, Masha’Allah.
thank you so much. it means so much to me. inexplicably, unfathomably. that ending is gonna make me sobbbbbb - 'It will not be something that leaves you questioning. It will be clear It will be kind It will be yours'. goodness me. brb gonna go and just cry now 😭🥺
thank you for being here!! this is such a sweet message, thank you :( and wow, thank you for sharing your story with me as well. i'm really happy and excited for you!! and really proud of you ♡.
sending so much love. jazakallah khair (may God reward you with goodness) ♡.
Assalam alaikum! Seeing the topic of this post made me almost trip as I ran over to read this. I totally understand how you’re feeling. Emphasis on the “sugar/ sweet dangling in front of you” bit you can’t have it.
Sis, I feel every energy exerted into this writing. Your frustration and your impatient. This is only natural as we are humans and we do get these feeling of wanting to be loved, acknowledged and seen, and especially for you who wants it so badly (and I pray to Allah that you do. Soon).
I do though, have to beg you to feel everything you’re feeling, let it out and be hopeful that your time is coming and when it does, Allah will introduce you to the most amazing person with the most beautiful soul who will love you so dearly. I also advise you to redirect all your frustration and turn them into du’a.
This is literally the perfect to turn to Allah and cry out to Him. Cry if you must! Your desperation and sincerity will surely not go unnoticed by Al-Sami’ (The All Hearing).
He sees you, He knows how you feel and this is your test. I pray Allah blesses single people with the right spouses and to live a life filled with love, sincerity, laughter and everything good!
May Allah make it easy for you. DO NOT GIVE UP ON BEING SABRGIRL! There is only you!
wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah ♡. omg that's so funny and so sweet of you, i'm smiling :)))))
thank you so much :( thank you for validating my feelings, it means a lot to me.
you're right - it really is the perfect time. alhamdulillah. i will and am and begging and praying. it's just the waiting that can feel soooo long but you're right, He *is* As-Sami. thank you for that reminder and reassurance that He is listening to me. jazakallah khair ♡.
Allahumma Ameen :) thank you so much for your kind words. i can't explain how it's making me feel, truly. if only you could see how my eyes are watering right now, reading your message. sending so much love. may Allah bless you so dearly, Ameen.
AND OKAY FINE!! I WILL REMAIN SABRGIRL!! FOREVER!! 🩷
The title was enough to make me feel that I'm not alone who feels longings like this. I'm also on the same boat like you, I share the same age group as you and I have always wanted to be simply romantically loved by a man but I never had it. Sometimes I'm able to tackle this feeling quite nicely but some days I just feel like when!? When am I going have a soft, calm and genuine love !? When...!?
But it's fine, being single is far better than having toxic marriage. And this also makes me realise that when my time will come Allah (SWT) will give me the love I always craved for.
we're in this together, sis :') now i know i'm not alone in my feelings too.
literally! i feel you. i think i have been getting *much* better and feeling quite content but it was days like yesterday where i was like AARRRRUUUGGGARRARGHHHHHHHH!!!!! feeling like anger from the movie inside out!
and you're SOOOO right! goodness me. God forbid, may Allah save us and our KIDS from toxic marriages, Ameen. i'd much rather stay single than ever be in that.
sending much love and an even tighter hug right back at you! 🩷
What do I say? Utterly speechless 🥺🥺 The comments above have done absolute justice to everything I feel about this and more. Dear SabrGirl, Your Lord will give you and you will be satisfied. ❤️❤️
Funnily, I feel the same way and I have journaled everyday too. 😅 Guess what! It will come at the right time and it will feel right. Trust the process. In the meantime, you are complete. Any love that will come later will only complement you. May Allah grant us all the best of spouses.
:') thank you so much for reading. this comment makes me feel so warm inside. i'm smiling :)
alhamdulillah, you're right. i am complete. i just need to be able to truly feel that with every fibre in my being and be content with that. Ameen. may you get your heart's desire, Ameen ♡
This longing is not a flaw, it is part of the way Allah designed your heart. To crave love, to yearn for companionship, is not a weakness but a reflection of the nature Allah has placed within us. He Himself says:
“And We created you in pairs.” (78:8)
What you desire is not beyond you, it is simply ahead of you, waiting for the moment Allah has written for it to enter your life. Allah is never in a hurry, but He is always on time. You are not being ignored, nor is your du’a being dismissed. Every second of this waiting is intentional. Every ache you feel is a step closer to what is meant for you.
“Perhaps you dislike something, and it is good for you,and perhaps you love something, and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (2:216)
You have done the work, you have healed, you have turned to Allah, and He has seen it all. Not a single tear, not a single whispered prayer has gone unnoticed. But He is never in a rush, because when He finally gives, He gives in abundance.
Your patience, even when you don’t want to be “SabrGirl” anymore, is not for nothing. Allah is preparing the heart that will recognize your depth, cherish your presence, and love you in a way that will make all this waiting feel like a fleeting moment.
One day, when you are held by the love that was written for you all along, you will look back and realize that this waiting was not a void, it was a preparation. And every moment of longing, every quiet night spent in patience, will have only made that love sweeter.
Trust that Allah is not delaying,He is designing something beautiful, just for you.
this has touched my heart so deeply. something about this message feels like it’s Allah talking to me through you. i felt such tranquility reading this, feeling certain that i really am going to get it one day and have nothing to worry about … :’)
thank you so much. i don’t even have words to describe how much i appreciate your words. i’m so inexplicably grateful :(((( jazakallah khair x100000
it truly means so much to me and has brought me such comfort. i pray Allah blesses you tenfold for it 🥺🩷
"at least now i’ve healed all of this and that and that and this but oh my goodness can i just have someone look at me in that way and actually, passionately, want me for the rest of their life?" FELT!!!
I remember been there once upon a time and I can totally relate to you penned down. I have a diary half full with longing like this but the right came and it wiped up every thing I ever felt. I pray you meet your Mr Right soonest & may you both be the coolness of each other's eyes 🤍
I felt this so deeply…like the emotion rush!!!!! May Allah SWT be with you and give back the love you’ve given out to the world the way you want or even better than you expect. I so much love this newsletter ‘cause it shows that there are people out there that actually validate these feelings of wanting love even after doing so much for themselves(i.e self love) rather than acting like these wanting feelings don’t exist.
Salam. I just discovered your account today and I'm so glad I did! I made an account because your blogs are just. so. real. I'll be looking forward to reading anything you post in the future. Your transparency and realness really touches my heart. It feels like you just throw out the filter and speak from the heart. You go girl! Im sure you and the man that Allah has written for you will come at the right time and place.
I hear you. And you’re absolutely right. Because while longing is natural, it’s also important that it doesn’t hold you hostage—that the thought of not having a man love you doesn’t feel like an unbearable fate. Because love, no matter how beautiful was never meant to be the thing that makes or unmakes you.
You have done so much work, not just in healing but in knowing yourself, in learning how to live fully, in strengthening your faith. And that faith, intimate relationship you’ve built with Allah—that is your anchor. That is what keeps you steady when the longing gets heavy. Because He hears you. He sees you. He knows what your heart aches for even before you put it into words. And He has never once forgotten you.
I know there are moments when it feels like why hasn’t this one thing happened yet? But Allah’s delays are never without purpose. Not a single tear, not a single whispered du’a goes unnoticed. You are not being overlooked. You are being prepared. You are being protected. You are being positioned for something that won’t just fill the void but will honor every part of who you are.And until that comes, you have to trust that you are already whole. That your life is not waiting to begin when love arrives—it is already rich and full and yours. A man’s love, when it comes, will be a gift. A blessing. But not the thing that saves you—because you were never lost to begin with.
So keep praying. Keep living. Keep trusting. Not with anxiety, not with fear, but with the quiet, steady belief that what is written for you will never miss you. And when it comes, it will not be something you have to beg for. It will not be something that leaves you questioning. It will be clear It will be kind It will be yours.
oh my dear goodness. thank you so much. i don't even have the words to explain how reassuring this is. your words have truly eased my heart :(
you're right. i think i AM being protected :') and prepared. i sometimes think that Allah is just helping me not *need* it and depend on it but instead entirely depend on Him before it comes. and i think it is working, alhamdulillah. sometimes i just get so impatient and frustrated. but you're so right, my relationship with Him IS my anchor. what a beautiful way to phrase it! you have such a way with words, Masha’Allah.
thank you so much. it means so much to me. inexplicably, unfathomably. that ending is gonna make me sobbbbbb - 'It will not be something that leaves you questioning. It will be clear It will be kind It will be yours'. goodness me. brb gonna go and just cry now 😭🥺
You welcome I’m glad you feel better ❤️
wow ur so wise Allahuma barik:)💪🏼❤️
Hmmm🥹 thank you ☺️
🥹❤️ Barakallahu feeki
You really should consider mental health like you said
Thank you ☺️❤️
thank you for being here!! this is such a sweet message, thank you :( and wow, thank you for sharing your story with me as well. i'm really happy and excited for you!! and really proud of you ♡.
sending so much love. jazakallah khair (may God reward you with goodness) ♡.
Assalam alaikum! Seeing the topic of this post made me almost trip as I ran over to read this. I totally understand how you’re feeling. Emphasis on the “sugar/ sweet dangling in front of you” bit you can’t have it.
Sis, I feel every energy exerted into this writing. Your frustration and your impatient. This is only natural as we are humans and we do get these feeling of wanting to be loved, acknowledged and seen, and especially for you who wants it so badly (and I pray to Allah that you do. Soon).
I do though, have to beg you to feel everything you’re feeling, let it out and be hopeful that your time is coming and when it does, Allah will introduce you to the most amazing person with the most beautiful soul who will love you so dearly. I also advise you to redirect all your frustration and turn them into du’a.
This is literally the perfect to turn to Allah and cry out to Him. Cry if you must! Your desperation and sincerity will surely not go unnoticed by Al-Sami’ (The All Hearing).
He sees you, He knows how you feel and this is your test. I pray Allah blesses single people with the right spouses and to live a life filled with love, sincerity, laughter and everything good!
May Allah make it easy for you. DO NOT GIVE UP ON BEING SABRGIRL! There is only you!
wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah ♡. omg that's so funny and so sweet of you, i'm smiling :)))))
thank you so much :( thank you for validating my feelings, it means a lot to me.
you're right - it really is the perfect time. alhamdulillah. i will and am and begging and praying. it's just the waiting that can feel soooo long but you're right, He *is* As-Sami. thank you for that reminder and reassurance that He is listening to me. jazakallah khair ♡.
Allahumma Ameen :) thank you so much for your kind words. i can't explain how it's making me feel, truly. if only you could see how my eyes are watering right now, reading your message. sending so much love. may Allah bless you so dearly, Ameen.
AND OKAY FINE!! I WILL REMAIN SABRGIRL!! FOREVER!! 🩷
I’m glad🫂🤍 That’s the spirit!!!
The title was enough to make me feel that I'm not alone who feels longings like this. I'm also on the same boat like you, I share the same age group as you and I have always wanted to be simply romantically loved by a man but I never had it. Sometimes I'm able to tackle this feeling quite nicely but some days I just feel like when!? When am I going have a soft, calm and genuine love !? When...!?
But it's fine, being single is far better than having toxic marriage. And this also makes me realise that when my time will come Allah (SWT) will give me the love I always craved for.
Love and a virtual hug from my side sis! 💗
we're in this together, sis :') now i know i'm not alone in my feelings too.
literally! i feel you. i think i have been getting *much* better and feeling quite content but it was days like yesterday where i was like AARRRRUUUGGGARRARGHHHHHHHH!!!!! feeling like anger from the movie inside out!
and you're SOOOO right! goodness me. God forbid, may Allah save us and our KIDS from toxic marriages, Ameen. i'd much rather stay single than ever be in that.
sending much love and an even tighter hug right back at you! 🩷
What do I say? Utterly speechless 🥺🥺 The comments above have done absolute justice to everything I feel about this and more. Dear SabrGirl, Your Lord will give you and you will be satisfied. ❤️❤️
Funnily, I feel the same way and I have journaled everyday too. 😅 Guess what! It will come at the right time and it will feel right. Trust the process. In the meantime, you are complete. Any love that will come later will only complement you. May Allah grant us all the best of spouses.
:') thank you so much for reading. this comment makes me feel so warm inside. i'm smiling :)
alhamdulillah, you're right. i am complete. i just need to be able to truly feel that with every fibre in my being and be content with that. Ameen. may you get your heart's desire, Ameen ♡
❤️
I felt this so deeply, may Allah grant us all good husbands 🥹🩷
Ameen :)
This longing is not a flaw, it is part of the way Allah designed your heart. To crave love, to yearn for companionship, is not a weakness but a reflection of the nature Allah has placed within us. He Himself says:
“And We created you in pairs.” (78:8)
What you desire is not beyond you, it is simply ahead of you, waiting for the moment Allah has written for it to enter your life. Allah is never in a hurry, but He is always on time. You are not being ignored, nor is your du’a being dismissed. Every second of this waiting is intentional. Every ache you feel is a step closer to what is meant for you.
“Perhaps you dislike something, and it is good for you,and perhaps you love something, and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” (2:216)
You have done the work, you have healed, you have turned to Allah, and He has seen it all. Not a single tear, not a single whispered prayer has gone unnoticed. But He is never in a rush, because when He finally gives, He gives in abundance.
Your patience, even when you don’t want to be “SabrGirl” anymore, is not for nothing. Allah is preparing the heart that will recognize your depth, cherish your presence, and love you in a way that will make all this waiting feel like a fleeting moment.
One day, when you are held by the love that was written for you all along, you will look back and realize that this waiting was not a void, it was a preparation. And every moment of longing, every quiet night spent in patience, will have only made that love sweeter.
Trust that Allah is not delaying,He is designing something beautiful, just for you.
this has touched my heart so deeply. something about this message feels like it’s Allah talking to me through you. i felt such tranquility reading this, feeling certain that i really am going to get it one day and have nothing to worry about … :’)
thank you so much. i don’t even have words to describe how much i appreciate your words. i’m so inexplicably grateful :(((( jazakallah khair x100000
it truly means so much to me and has brought me such comfort. i pray Allah blesses you tenfold for it 🥺🩷
Thank you for sharing your heart so openly. Your longing for love is natural, and it’s okay to feel that desire deeply.
You’ve done the work to heal and build faith, and now you’re ready for the right partner.
May the beneficial love that you seek find you immediately, insha’allah. 💕
thank you for reading :') and for validating my feelings.
i hope so! that's kind of you to say :)
Ameen! i pray the same for you and all of your heart's desires! may they be fulfilled in the most beautiful way, Ameen 🩷
"at least now i’ve healed all of this and that and that and this but oh my goodness can i just have someone look at me in that way and actually, passionately, want me for the rest of their life?" FELT!!!
I remember been there once upon a time and I can totally relate to you penned down. I have a diary half full with longing like this but the right came and it wiped up every thing I ever felt. I pray you meet your Mr Right soonest & may you both be the coolness of each other's eyes 🤍
:') oh, that's so reassuring to hear, thank you for telling me this. alhamdulillah. and i'm so happy for you!!!! how beautiful :)))
Ameen, thank you so much 🩷 it really means a lot.
The post, the comments 🥹❤️.
Indeed your Lord will give you and you'll be satisfied.
May Allah bless us with the best spouses
:) Insha’Allah. Ameen. thank you so much ♡
I felt this so deeply…like the emotion rush!!!!! May Allah SWT be with you and give back the love you’ve given out to the world the way you want or even better than you expect. I so much love this newsletter ‘cause it shows that there are people out there that actually validate these feelings of wanting love even after doing so much for themselves(i.e self love) rather than acting like these wanting feelings don’t exist.
:')) thank you for reading
Ameen!! i pray the same for you and more, Ameen ♡
awww this really means a lot to me! :((( yes, these wanting feelings DEFINITELY still exist... at least in my world 😅. thank you so much ♡
sending lots of love
This is me to my soul!!!
Salam. I just discovered your account today and I'm so glad I did! I made an account because your blogs are just. so. real. I'll be looking forward to reading anything you post in the future. Your transparency and realness really touches my heart. It feels like you just throw out the filter and speak from the heart. You go girl! Im sure you and the man that Allah has written for you will come at the right time and place.
Take care~ 💗
wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah :’) what a compliment 😭🩷
thank you so much. my heart is beaming - this means so much to me. welcome to substack!
jazakallah khair x1000. i’m sending you so much love :’)
Yes we are in this together!!!🩷
And I totally understand that there are some days where we just can't hold back our emotions and it's completely fine. Even I go through such days.
And Allahumma ameen.
This is so real of you oh my god when I saw the email notification i knew this would cook
thank you so much 😭🩷
This is the most relatable rant ever
:) thank you sm for reading ♡