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Faridah's avatar

I hear you. And you’re absolutely right. Because while longing is natural, it’s also important that it doesn’t hold you hostage—that the thought of not having a man love you doesn’t feel like an unbearable fate. Because love, no matter how beautiful was never meant to be the thing that makes or unmakes you.

You have done so much work, not just in healing but in knowing yourself, in learning how to live fully, in strengthening your faith. And that faith, intimate relationship you’ve built with Allah—that is your anchor. That is what keeps you steady when the longing gets heavy. Because He hears you. He sees you. He knows what your heart aches for even before you put it into words. And He has never once forgotten you.

I know there are moments when it feels like why hasn’t this one thing happened yet? But Allah’s delays are never without purpose. Not a single tear, not a single whispered du’a goes unnoticed. You are not being overlooked. You are being prepared. You are being protected. You are being positioned for something that won’t just fill the void but will honor every part of who you are.And until that comes, you have to trust that you are already whole. That your life is not waiting to begin when love arrives—it is already rich and full and yours. A man’s love, when it comes, will be a gift. A blessing. But not the thing that saves you—because you were never lost to begin with.

So keep praying. Keep living. Keep trusting. Not with anxiety, not with fear, but with the quiet, steady belief that what is written for you will never miss you. And when it comes, it will not be something you have to beg for. It will not be something that leaves you questioning. It will be clear It will be kind It will be yours.

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zara's avatar

Assalam alaikum! Seeing the topic of this post made me almost trip as I ran over to read this. I totally understand how you’re feeling. Emphasis on the “sugar/ sweet dangling in front of you” bit you can’t have it.

Sis, I feel every energy exerted into this writing. Your frustration and your impatient. This is only natural as we are humans and we do get these feeling of wanting to be loved, acknowledged and seen, and especially for you who wants it so badly (and I pray to Allah that you do. Soon).

I do though, have to beg you to feel everything you’re feeling, let it out and be hopeful that your time is coming and when it does, Allah will introduce you to the most amazing person with the most beautiful soul who will love you so dearly. I also advise you to redirect all your frustration and turn them into du’a.

This is literally the perfect to turn to Allah and cry out to Him. Cry if you must! Your desperation and sincerity will surely not go unnoticed by Al-Sami’ (The All Hearing).

He sees you, He knows how you feel and this is your test. I pray Allah blesses single people with the right spouses and to live a life filled with love, sincerity, laughter and everything good!

May Allah make it easy for you. DO NOT GIVE UP ON BEING SABRGIRL! There is only you!

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