Ya Allah…reading all these. I can feel the panic in every word you've written, and honestly, I don't blame you for it. This is so much to handle, and it feels like you're being pushed and pulled in every direction.
I get where you're coming from. The fear of uprooting your whole life for someone you don't even know? It's terrifying. And the way you've described
it, it's not just about the move-it's the whole uncertainty of it all. The "what ifs" are loud, and they're valid, especially with your mom's experiences and your own trauma from watching what she went through. It's not you preparing for divorce--it's you being cautious, and there's nothing wrong with that. It just means you've seen life, and you're not walking into things blindly.
Also, youre right to think about compatibility beyond the basics. "Son of a respectable man" isn't a personality trait, and it definitely isn't enough to build a life with someone. You need to know who he is-what his deen is like, how he thinks, how he handles conflict, what his priorities are. And the move? That's HUGE.
As for your dad, I can tell he just wants the best for you, and I love that he's sharing his experiences to encourage you. May Allah SWT bless him.
Lastly, about blocking blessings-I feel you on this. I overthink like crazy when it comes to Allah's plans too. But here's the thing I learned recently : if something is truly meant for you, nothing in the world can take it away from you. Allah has got you.
I’m glad that everything is all settled now. You getting the job offer is such a beautiful metaphor for how Allah works. The fact that it came back at the perfect time reassured you that what's meant for you will never miss you.
I’ll be sure to make dua for you. I pray Allah gives you clarity and peace in your heart. I pray He guides you to what's best for your deen, dunya, and akhirah, and that He makes this process easy for you. And I pray that no matter what happens, you always feel His love and guidance surrounding you.
wow subhanallah, you really read every single word with such attention and care - i can't thank you enough. i feel so seen and understood. thank you so much for validating my feelings 🥺
jazakallah khair x1000 for your kindness :') it means more to me than i can express in words, my heart is smiling !! and you're so right about 'if something is truly meant for you, nothing in the world can take it away from you. Allah has got you'. alhamdulillah :')
i pray the same for you and more, Allahumma Ameen ♡
What a beautiful write up. I love how you articulated everything smoothly it felt like I was listening to you talk about it all and not wanting it to end. Thank you for sharing this, truly, thank you. May Allāh in his infinite wisdom guide you towards making the right decision.
P.S. I too cannot wait for ramadan. I’ll insha Allāh include you in my duas.
❤️🫂 keep being strong and keep working hard. You made the right choice - inshallah whatever is best will be whatever happens next. Thank you for being so vulnerable and for sharing your experience 💗
girl I never thought I could relate to a post of yours this much. Also it’s so good to see a post of yours after a while, I know you’ve been busy and stressed. So reading this felt like checking in with a friend :)
First of all, the difficulty in making a decision is so real!! Let me share a similar experience I had just a few weeks ago - I was interested in a guy at work but I had no way of knowing whether he was interested- and because he was from work I didn’t want to approach him. And then, my coworker introduced me to a relative of hers - a really great guy and I actually enjoyed getting to know him better. Believe me I was torn - was I supposed to like this new , nice guy?? But I wanted work guy! So I FELT when you said this:
what if Allah is blessing me with a rizq in a way i didn’t expect but is good for me? what if this is what Allah wants for me and i’m turning away out of fear? after all, am i not a servant of Allah? His will over my will, right?
AND THIS!!
but thinking about talking to him when i feel hesitant seemed like a big no as i know what it’s like to be led on by someone who isn’t ready and i’m not going to go and do the same thing to someone else. what if he ends up liking me and i’m hesitant and confused? it’s painful. i was in it too long to go and do the same.
After a lot of fretting and praying, I ultimately decided to move on - from BOTH of them lol. The nice guy , for reasons above because I didn’t want to be in it Half heartedly and string him along. Work guy because I felt that I needed to trust god and if things are meant to be things will happen. In their own time. (And honestly, I just lost interest naturally - I did also pray for my heart to not get attached to what’s not mine - and I think that prayer worked its magic)
I totally understand what a toll this must have taken on you at such a young age to be making all these life decisions , can relate. It can be so draining, mentally and emotionally. I was in a similar state for a few weeks. In the end I’m glad things turned out well, and that you are also at peace with the current state of things, alhamdulillah.
I pray that going forward things turned out beautifully for you and I’m here if you ever need to talk :) and congrats on the job as well, masha allah allahumma barik! <3
thank you so much for your sweet words, you're so kind ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡
i love hearing from you SO much.
and thank you so much for sharing your story with me :') i laughed out loud when you said 'i ultimately decided to move on - from BOTH of them'. that's hilarious, what a plot twist 😭😭. your beautiful character shows to not want to string the other boy along bc of your own half heartedness :) and that's a beautiful prayer that you did though... i'm gonna use it now. i said the dua in my head after reading that. that's beautiful - i pray that you get the best of the best, such a beautiful, righteous and kind man who's Allah's best friend Ameen ♡.
i'm so glad that you shared this with me and can also relate bc it makes me feel sooooo much less alone in this whole thing. sending soooooo much love and hugs to you <333 and i also pray that you're doing well as i know these past 2 months or so, how down you've been feeling! hugging you 🫂 (and thanks for the congrats🙈)
I hope Allah heals your heart immensely and I wish all the best for you next year Ameen 🥹 I really needed to hear that last bit from you about trying not to change Allah’s Qadr and blessings, no matter what I do or how much I overthink it. Thank you for soothing me always <3
I love how you trusted Allāh through it all. may He grant you the best outcome from this. you totally deserve to be happy and I pray Allāh blesses you with the best marriage that would be easy for you and you won't have to worry so much about losing the connection with your family and friends and you won't have to write in english you don't like, lol.
allāhuma bārik and congratulationsss on your new job, sisss. 🎉💕
and thank you for always sharing your experiences with us, sabrgirl. 💕
thank you so much. Ameen and i pray the same for you and more, Ameen! you're so sweet :') this made me smile sm. thank you x1000 and jazakallah khair :') 🩷🩷🩷
This was so utterly lovely to read. Your heart is so beautiful. Your stress is so real. Your love for Allah is so big. Mashallah, you have a heart with ears. 🤍
Yeahhh 🤭… you are welcome🫂. Safe to say, I’m one of your fans😚.
Actually, it was from the beginning—when you were in sujud and hyperventilating asking for help from Allah 🥹 and I can see myself doing that and I just can’t helped but get emotional. Also, the way you were making your dua with certainty that He is there with you —that certainty got me 🥺. Ameeen🤲🏼.
What a good read 🥺. You know,I’ve been eagerly waiting for you to drop a letter because I really needed a reminder to keep trusting God’s plan in my life and I had no idea you were going through something like this, I’m so sorry 🫂. Also, I want to commend you for your unwavering vulnerability in your letters. Thank youuuuu!
While reading, I experienced mixed emotions—some parts made me teary, while others left me smitten— you know your onions 🤭. And yeah, you’ve said it all, Allah answers dua and it’s never too late or too early for Him.
May Allah grant you the best! Sending love and hugs from here ❤️🫂.
omg :’( i had no idea my writing would be anticipated. that makes me so happy i cannot 🥺 thank you so much. for your sweet, kind words and for reading :’) and for being you!
awww omg! which parts made you teary i’m so intrigued!!! may Allah grant you the best too. here’s your reminder to keep trusting God’s plan in your life ;)
sending so much love and hugs right back. may Allah bless you 🫂🩷
Ya Allah…reading all these. I can feel the panic in every word you've written, and honestly, I don't blame you for it. This is so much to handle, and it feels like you're being pushed and pulled in every direction.
I get where you're coming from. The fear of uprooting your whole life for someone you don't even know? It's terrifying. And the way you've described
it, it's not just about the move-it's the whole uncertainty of it all. The "what ifs" are loud, and they're valid, especially with your mom's experiences and your own trauma from watching what she went through. It's not you preparing for divorce--it's you being cautious, and there's nothing wrong with that. It just means you've seen life, and you're not walking into things blindly.
Also, youre right to think about compatibility beyond the basics. "Son of a respectable man" isn't a personality trait, and it definitely isn't enough to build a life with someone. You need to know who he is-what his deen is like, how he thinks, how he handles conflict, what his priorities are. And the move? That's HUGE.
As for your dad, I can tell he just wants the best for you, and I love that he's sharing his experiences to encourage you. May Allah SWT bless him.
Lastly, about blocking blessings-I feel you on this. I overthink like crazy when it comes to Allah's plans too. But here's the thing I learned recently : if something is truly meant for you, nothing in the world can take it away from you. Allah has got you.
I’m glad that everything is all settled now. You getting the job offer is such a beautiful metaphor for how Allah works. The fact that it came back at the perfect time reassured you that what's meant for you will never miss you.
I’ll be sure to make dua for you. I pray Allah gives you clarity and peace in your heart. I pray He guides you to what's best for your deen, dunya, and akhirah, and that He makes this process easy for you. And I pray that no matter what happens, you always feel His love and guidance surrounding you.
wow subhanallah, you really read every single word with such attention and care - i can't thank you enough. i feel so seen and understood. thank you so much for validating my feelings 🥺
jazakallah khair x1000 for your kindness :') it means more to me than i can express in words, my heart is smiling !! and you're so right about 'if something is truly meant for you, nothing in the world can take it away from you. Allah has got you'. alhamdulillah :')
i pray the same for you and more, Allahumma Ameen ♡
sending so much love and hugs your way 🩷
i’m glad i made you feel seen and understood. 🤍
You just earned a subscriber! I didn’t want this to end. I wish you all the very best. May Allah choose what is bestest for you.. Allahumma Bareek❤️
🥺 thank you so much. you're so sweet :') may Allah grant you so much nearness to Him, Ameen ♡
and welcome to the world of sabrgirl <333 i hope you love it here 🩷
Aamin Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyummm.. I will In Shaa Allah!❤️❤️
What a beautiful write up. I love how you articulated everything smoothly it felt like I was listening to you talk about it all and not wanting it to end. Thank you for sharing this, truly, thank you. May Allāh in his infinite wisdom guide you towards making the right decision.
P.S. I too cannot wait for ramadan. I’ll insha Allāh include you in my duas.
:') thank you so much. jazakallah khair ♡ it means so much to me :') you saying you didn't want it to end makes me soooo haaaaappy 🥹🥹🥹
may Allah bless you sm and always strengthen His relationship with you daily, Ameen
آمين يا رب العالمين
❤️🫂 keep being strong and keep working hard. You made the right choice - inshallah whatever is best will be whatever happens next. Thank you for being so vulnerable and for sharing your experience 💗
thank you so much :') may Allah bless you, you're so kind 🩷
girl I never thought I could relate to a post of yours this much. Also it’s so good to see a post of yours after a while, I know you’ve been busy and stressed. So reading this felt like checking in with a friend :)
First of all, the difficulty in making a decision is so real!! Let me share a similar experience I had just a few weeks ago - I was interested in a guy at work but I had no way of knowing whether he was interested- and because he was from work I didn’t want to approach him. And then, my coworker introduced me to a relative of hers - a really great guy and I actually enjoyed getting to know him better. Believe me I was torn - was I supposed to like this new , nice guy?? But I wanted work guy! So I FELT when you said this:
what if Allah is blessing me with a rizq in a way i didn’t expect but is good for me? what if this is what Allah wants for me and i’m turning away out of fear? after all, am i not a servant of Allah? His will over my will, right?
AND THIS!!
but thinking about talking to him when i feel hesitant seemed like a big no as i know what it’s like to be led on by someone who isn’t ready and i’m not going to go and do the same thing to someone else. what if he ends up liking me and i’m hesitant and confused? it’s painful. i was in it too long to go and do the same.
After a lot of fretting and praying, I ultimately decided to move on - from BOTH of them lol. The nice guy , for reasons above because I didn’t want to be in it Half heartedly and string him along. Work guy because I felt that I needed to trust god and if things are meant to be things will happen. In their own time. (And honestly, I just lost interest naturally - I did also pray for my heart to not get attached to what’s not mine - and I think that prayer worked its magic)
I totally understand what a toll this must have taken on you at such a young age to be making all these life decisions , can relate. It can be so draining, mentally and emotionally. I was in a similar state for a few weeks. In the end I’m glad things turned out well, and that you are also at peace with the current state of things, alhamdulillah.
I pray that going forward things turned out beautifully for you and I’m here if you ever need to talk :) and congrats on the job as well, masha allah allahumma barik! <3
thank you so much for your sweet words, you're so kind ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡
i love hearing from you SO much.
and thank you so much for sharing your story with me :') i laughed out loud when you said 'i ultimately decided to move on - from BOTH of them'. that's hilarious, what a plot twist 😭😭. your beautiful character shows to not want to string the other boy along bc of your own half heartedness :) and that's a beautiful prayer that you did though... i'm gonna use it now. i said the dua in my head after reading that. that's beautiful - i pray that you get the best of the best, such a beautiful, righteous and kind man who's Allah's best friend Ameen ♡.
i'm so glad that you shared this with me and can also relate bc it makes me feel sooooo much less alone in this whole thing. sending soooooo much love and hugs to you <333 and i also pray that you're doing well as i know these past 2 months or so, how down you've been feeling! hugging you 🫂 (and thanks for the congrats🙈)
jazakallah khair <3
I hope Allah heals your heart immensely and I wish all the best for you next year Ameen 🥹 I really needed to hear that last bit from you about trying not to change Allah’s Qadr and blessings, no matter what I do or how much I overthink it. Thank you for soothing me always <3
ahhhh thank you sm halima :') i pray the same for you too, Ameen 🩷 sending so much love. always here for you ♡
This was so soothing to read😚😚😚 barakallahu feeh....
jazakallah khair :”) thank you so much ♡
indeed, Allāh is the best of planners.
I love how you trusted Allāh through it all. may He grant you the best outcome from this. you totally deserve to be happy and I pray Allāh blesses you with the best marriage that would be easy for you and you won't have to worry so much about losing the connection with your family and friends and you won't have to write in english you don't like, lol.
allāhuma bārik and congratulationsss on your new job, sisss. 🎉💕
and thank you for always sharing your experiences with us, sabrgirl. 💕
alhamdulillah :)
thank you so much. Ameen and i pray the same for you and more, Ameen! you're so sweet :') this made me smile sm. thank you x1000 and jazakallah khair :') 🩷🩷🩷
āmīn, wa antum!
you're always welcome.💕
This was so utterly lovely to read. Your heart is so beautiful. Your stress is so real. Your love for Allah is so big. Mashallah, you have a heart with ears. 🤍
:((((( gonna make me cry. thank you so much. jazakallah khair x1000 ♡
thank you for reading and leaving this kind comment 🩷
Yeahhh 🤭… you are welcome🫂. Safe to say, I’m one of your fans😚.
Actually, it was from the beginning—when you were in sujud and hyperventilating asking for help from Allah 🥹 and I can see myself doing that and I just can’t helped but get emotional. Also, the way you were making your dua with certainty that He is there with you —that certainty got me 🥺. Ameeen🤲🏼.
Jazakillahu kairan 🫶🏼.
omg 🥹🥹🥹🥹
and ahhh <333 that makes me feel much less alone! thank you sm :’) ♡
What a good read 🥺. You know,I’ve been eagerly waiting for you to drop a letter because I really needed a reminder to keep trusting God’s plan in my life and I had no idea you were going through something like this, I’m so sorry 🫂. Also, I want to commend you for your unwavering vulnerability in your letters. Thank youuuuu!
While reading, I experienced mixed emotions—some parts made me teary, while others left me smitten— you know your onions 🤭. And yeah, you’ve said it all, Allah answers dua and it’s never too late or too early for Him.
May Allah grant you the best! Sending love and hugs from here ❤️🫂.
omg :’( i had no idea my writing would be anticipated. that makes me so happy i cannot 🥺 thank you so much. for your sweet, kind words and for reading :’) and for being you!
awww omg! which parts made you teary i’m so intrigued!!! may Allah grant you the best too. here’s your reminder to keep trusting God’s plan in your life ;)
sending so much love and hugs right back. may Allah bless you 🫂🩷